A Powerful Conversation with Leda Ross

It is always special working closely with people to create something that honours a moment, a story. After the loss of her baby son Marlowe, Natalie Marie Jewellery had the privilege to create a special piece of jewellery for our very dear friend, Leda Ross. We spoke with Leda about the importance of instilling strength in others through selflessness, kindness and vulnerability, the appreciation of those we love and the little signs that restore our trust in a higher power, looking after us all. We are ever thankful for her insight and we invite you to read more.

 

At Natalie Marie Jewellery, we believe that every piece of our jewellery holds a story. A motive. A memory. A milestone moment. We were so sorry to hear of the loss of your son Marlowe and creating this piece for you was done with the most tender of care. What story does this piece hold for you?

After we lost Marlowe, we moved out of our place, as it was too hard to look at the empty baby’s room. We then relocated to a beautiful spot near the water at Clareville. This colour reminds me of the pink sunsets we'd watch on the beach while sending love to our little boy.

 

You've honestly and beautifully shared your loss on your personal Instagram, and as friends, we've been able to experience this and it has truly helped us to understand your grief as well as ways we can help others. What do you hope people can gain from reading your posts, and now, from reading this interview?

I feel like I had no idea about grief before this. I think of all the times I didn’t check in enough with friends who had lost a loved one. Unfortunately, we all get caught up in our busy lives and forget to check in as much as we should.

 

I hope through sharing my story and pain that it makes people stop and slow down in their busy day and think of that person in their life that may be struggling.

To simply send a text to say you care can mean the world to that person on a hard day. To acknowledge someone’s grief and hold space for them means that person can feel a little stronger that day.

Another thing I would like people to know is that grief and joy co-exist. I can have such a happy day while also feeling sad that my little boy isn't sitting with us. These two emotions are all mixed up together now and forever. Grief never really goes away, it's just something you learn to live with.

 

What's one question you wish people asked more often?

I wish people would ask to see photos of my little boy when I tell them what happened. Even though he didn’t get to be here for long, he was still here and existed. I would still love to show off his perfect little face.

 

What makes you feel the most connected to Marlowe?

Since Marlowe died, white feathers have popped up everywhere almost every day. It always makes me feel close to him, I know he is sending me little signs to help me stay strong.

 

What has Marlowe taught you about life and about love?

So much! I look at life so differently now. The innocence has gone but I really appreciate my loved ones more. This tragedy showed me how many amazing, loving people I have in my life.  It was truly humbling in that regard.

I think this has forced me to slow down and appreciate the small things. I've also leaned heavily into my spiritual side, which has helped me remain positive. Even though I have so many questions left unanswered I still feel that there is a higher power that looks after us all.

 

The newest designs to arrive at Natalie Marie Jewellery were inspired by both the challenges and achievements of days gone by. Influenced by those who dared to do things differently, we reimagined a world where we could be bold and unafraid - our latest styles invite you to celebrate your success, no matter how big or small. Generally speaking, how do you consider 'success'?

Success to me is feeling at peace within yourself. Knowing that you have been kind and genuinely listened to people when they talk. Connecting with other people has become even more intense after losing Marlowe. Many people have shown me a different and more vulnerable side to themselves. It always feels great and makes me happy to be a human!

 

And more specifically, when have you felt your most successful?

I definitely felt the most happy and successful when I was pregnant. It was the best feeling in the world, and I can't wait to do it again.

 

If you could describe your life now in one word, what would it be and why?

Transition – I look at what happened to us as an opportunity to learn and grow. Basically, you can go either way- become resentful of life and everyone in it or roll with the emotions, feel it all and be grateful for all the good things in life.

 

What is your most meaningful piece of jewellery?

My wedding ring, also designed by Natalie Marie. We actually had a baby shower and turned it into a surprise wedding. It's so nice to know that our little guy was with us on our special day.

 

For further support, education and awareness head over to stillaware.org , Australia's first Stillbirth awareness charity, a charity that has been a guiding light for Leda.

Photography: Courtney Gold Photography